Being a "selfish" mom made me better

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I've been thinking a lot about how ten years ago I had no idea how much I'd feel so right inside of motherhood.

I remember being a young(ish) mom. I had two kids by the time I was 28. Before I had kids, I just assumed that I would feel a natural contentedness in that role. And while I did find joy in it, the start of motherhood was challenging for me. I often felt totally overwhelmed and alone.

I was trying my best, but because I was so young, I didn't know myself. I was sort of puppeteering myself through each day, disconnected from myself. I was trying from a place of performance, people-pleasing, and misalignment.

Being a mom was self-sacrifice and that became my identity, instead of taking the time to first cultivate an understanding of myself and more importantly, assert that in the world.

Sure, I worked on things that mattered to me, but I took on the narrative that my children should always come first. That I should get my own crumbs.

That no matter what, I was to conform around my partner and my children and their needs from me before I thought of anything else. And pretty soon, I was the biggest advocate of my self-sacrifice of all. Nobody had to explain it to me. I volunteered! And then complained!

What I didn't know was that on an unconscious level, I believed that my role as a woman was to come last in the family. That's why even when I made efforts to go outside of those lines, I never fully found success. Until -

The more I began to explore and cultivate an understanding of who I was, what motivated me, what I truly longed for, and earnestly gave space for that in my life, the more I really began to challenge the deep seated beliefs I had about the nuclear family, women, and mothers, the more my mothering improved for the better.

Because I was actually taking the time to honor myself.

Because I wasn't resenting everyone all the time!

Because I wasn't consensually putting myself every single time and then complaining about it.

Because I was taking responsibility for the beliefs I had, and the role I had, even accidentally, claimed as my own. And once we take responsibility, then we have the chance to affect change.

In your corner,

Jolie

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